Porn Preys On These Types Of Men

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” – Henry Wadsworth Longefellow

The big question I often get is why do men still watch porn despite knowing the consequences?

For some knowing is not enough and there is something deeper going on in his life so a man may continue watching porn to fill an emotional void in his life.
This is often associated with a lack of connection with a significant other, their family or friends. Men who are emotionally unavailable typically will be more vulnerable to watching porn and becoming addicted.

Like any addiction, porn can easily prey on a man who needs a quick hit of instant gratification or some dopamine to feel excited about life for a short while.
People are very vulnerable to becoming porn addicts if they meet any of the following: prior addictive behavior in family to drugs, alcohol, food or gambling, history of neglect, history of emotional, physical or sexual abuse, social anxiety, depression, attention deficit disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, or history of self-harm behaviors.

Also, men who live out of alignment with what they should be doing with their lives or who live off-purpose (basically wasting time or doing something they shouldn’t be doing with their lives like a bad job or involved in a toxic relationship) are vulnerable to porn addiction.

It can be very easy to just click over on a new tab and start watching porn. It’s fun, gratifying, and of course it’s too easy to acquire that dopamine hit to make you feel good in the moment. The key here is to acknowledge what challenges you have and start working on them to improve your life.

Typically heavy porn users are watching porn because they are trying to mask some other serious life challenge. There is no quick fix for any of the above life challenges, but you should acknowledge your setbacks and start working on them now. Then in time you will overcome any challenge.

For however long you live in an unhealthy state, you will always be very susceptible to watching porn. If you improve your life, then you can decrease your desire to watch porn – your life, not porn, becomes your stimulus for dopamine.

You might have heard of the term “addicted2life,” and hey, that’s not a bad thing to love the life you’ve created for yourself. Note that not all depression and social challenges are caused by porn, but it can add to your depression and it certainly doesn’t help the problem. It’s like pouring fuel over a fire – it’s only going to magnify the problem.

And you may have been told you have a problem or special medical condition going on, but it could be really driven by your addiction to porn.