What is a MILF?

What is a MILF

For a word that barely existed a few generations ago, the word MILF has certainly pushed it’s way into the American lexicon. A term popularized in 1999 with the film American Pie, the word has become so commonplace that it’s seen as a nice compliment for n older woman. The letters in MILF, of course, stand for Mother I’d Like to Fuck. How far the world has come, when often married women consider it a compliment that a younger man would want to have sex with them. Our culture has taken something which was unthinkably vulgar 100 years ago in today rather commonplace.

Women were property

What has changed in our world where women wear this badge with honor? Well, first of all women are finally being viewed as equal members of our world. For most of our history, women have been relegated to homemaking baby factories by the men in their lives. Women had mostly been owned by their husband as far as the world saw, and until only recently generally couldn’t even own property on their own, and weren’t permitted to live alone. Once women became married and soon after became mothers, they disappeared from society and their entire being revolved around having a tidy house and raising children. Married women rarely held jobs or even a social life outside of their home, and they were certainly never viewed as a sex symbol.

What is a MILF

Liberation

The 20th century saw changes in laws and in culture which allowed women greater freedom to make their own choices. This shift began largely in the 1960’s and continues today, where women are able to escape abusive and controlling marriages and now were more often having careers outside the home. This began as a necessity during the wars, when most of the men were overseas, but continued as women were now choosing to have careers and lives of their own, rather that remain under the controlling finger of her husband. This shift in society was accompanied by a corresponding shift in the attitudes of males toward women with children. Now, rather than looking at the mothers in the neighborhood as old maids, they now were free to look at them as objects of desire, now that they’d burned their bra’s.

What is a MILF

Mrs. Robinson

This shift was even more pronounced after the release of the controversial 1967 film, The Graduate. This film turned the standard upside down, by depicting a younger man engaging in a steamy affair with an older woman. From that moment on, the fantasy of being seduced by an older woman was etched into the minds of young men of the western world. It was always common to see age differences in marriages through history, but generally the only socially acceptable difference was an older man with a younger woman. This reversed the entire norms of human history.

The examples of older women playing sexual goddess to younger men continued in many other films and other media, including a relationship that goes well beyond a MILF in 1971’s Harold and Maude, which depicts a 20 year old man involved in a romantic relationship with a woman more than 50 years his senior. Other memorable movies don’t depict an ongoing sexual relationship, but rather a single steamy fling. Examples of this are Animal House, Bull Durham, and of course the previously mentioned American Pie. Where the sophisticated but unlucky in love high school senior beds his friend/rival’s mom – our very first MILF.

May December romances

Age differences were always common throughout history, with numerous examples of large gaps in marriages. Generally, the only socially acceptable version was an older man with a younger woman. You simply didn’t often see any other examples, and you can explain that through biology. Women’s primitive senses teach her to look for a father who is able to help her raise children, and they can rely upon to continue providing for them. This would favor an older male. Men, on the other hand, would be more likely to seek a woman who could bear him more children, so they would be driven toward younger women. For most of human history, this was the only example that you could ever see, and history is littered with extreme examples including child brides for wealthy and powerful men.

Adult film industry

What began with some mainstream Hollywood films, had a huge impact on the sprouting adult film industry. The film makers exploited the older woman fantasy that many young men had been harboring and the fantasy of an older woman seducing a younger man became more real. The most common fantasy was the teacher-student relationship, but has extended to any woman in position of authority has been made into a fantasy in countless adult films. Older women quickly went from invisible maids into an exotic and coveted object of desire.

What is a MILF

Why do young men want older women?

There are various reasons why older women, or mom’s, are desired as sexual fantasies for adolescent boys. Following is a list of the advantages that getting into bed with a MILF offers a young man, or the apparent advantages of sleeping with an older woman. A MILF is expected to fall into a very narrow range and fulfill a very specific set of actions.

1) They bring bedroom skills

Older women are certainly more experienced, and thus are able to bring some mystery skills into the bedroom. Young men are clueless and walking into a world they’re certainly unprepared for, so rather than fumbling around clumsily with an equally unprepared girl his own age, a sexual encounter with an older woman would be an experience to remember. They are expected to not know what to do, so there’s no pressure on the young man to perform. In the typical fantasy, the older woman tells the man to relax while she handles everything. The young man is able to just lie back and enjoy a perfect sexual experience while she escorts him into manhood.

What is a MILF

2) They can teach you things

Not only is the MILF in this fantasy expected to provide all of the fireworks in the bedroom, but the men are also expecting to use the experience learned from this affair to become great lovers themselves. The experienced and wise woman now becomes a teacher, showing this young man the ropes and teaching him how to please a woman. Strangely, there is a double standard in this fantasy as you’ll rarely find a story of a man who teaches a young girl how to please a man, but a woman is expected to act as a sage for when the real sex occurs later in life.

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3) The MILF is hot

Life isn’t fair, and with that theme, some people age more gracefully than others. The MILF is the fine wine who only gets better with age. She’s the mom without the mom-bod or the mom-jeans. She’s the one who the other mothers grit their teeth at because she has the body of a 20 year old. She’s the one who hasn’t had a grey hair nor a wrinkle yet, and faces life with the bountiful energy rarely seen in a mom. The MILF might have a child, but she didn’t give up her drive to always be the hottest one in the room. This is why an older woman might receive the “MILF badge” with honor, because this is our way of saying “damn that woman looks fine” and who doesn’t love a compliment? Most women take MILF as a compliment on their looks, rather than taking offense to a man telling her he wants his penis inside her.

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4) She knows what she wants

The MILF has been there and done that, and has is all done playing games. She’s not the teenage girlfriend who draws a firm line and makes you work for every inch below the neck. This is a woman who wants to rock your world, and she isn’t afraid to let you know it. The fantasy MILF is not going to need you to seduce her into bed, she’s going to flat-out tell you it’s time for some loving. This is particularly appealing to inexperienced young men who couldn’t talk any woman out of her pants, the milf will throw him on the bed and perform a strip tease to make sure he’s getting an experience to last a lifetime. Remember, this is a fantasy.

5) The MILF is in her early 30’s

Certainly mothers come in nearly every age range, but a MILF often falls into a fairly narrow age range. While there are many mothers who are in their early 20’s, they generally aren’t seen as being MILF’s. These women are desired, for sure, but they often are given the title of “baby mama” rather than MILF. Because she’s so young, she doesn’t fit the first 4 characteristics of the ideal fantasy so she can’t serve the MILF role well. These young mothers don’t bring the experience of a woman with many years of sexual experience. Generally, this falls to women in their low 30’s to fulfill the fantasy. They are old enough to be experienced, but not so old as to have any signs of aging. Older women are rarely considered objects of affection, much less get the title of MILF. There is a term called GILF, for Grandma I’d Like to Fuck, but this is seen more of a joke than a real fantasy. Perhaps in a few more generations, we’ll view very old women as objects of fantasy.

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6) The MILF is emotionally deep

One of the most memorable scenes in the movie Bull Durham, the older woman played by Susan Sarandan seduces Tim Robbins, a young and talented baseball player. Rather than have passionate sex with him, however, she ties him to the bed and reads poetry to him all night. Of course, he is moved and matured by his night with the older woman. A MILF is not a shallow giggling teenage girlfriend, this is a woman who has seen the world. She can teach you things beyond sex; she can teach you to be mature and cultured. This puts a lot of pressure on our fantasy MILF, who now has to be incredibly attractive, she has to initiate and control the sexual encounter, and leave the young man with a sexual education and a emotional awakening. This is becoming a lot to ask of our MILF, but certainly she’ll be up for the task.

What is a MILF

7) Having kids isn’t necessary

Strangely enough, you don’t need to be a mom to be a MILF. You would think that would be a prerequisite, but a woman only need to fit the above criteria to be awarded MILF status. Kids aren’t necessary to fulfill the fantasy, in fact having children would be a definite impediment to a sexually charged encounter, as the MILF can’t be concerned about raising her children, she needs to be able to focus all of her attention on fulfilling every sexual need of the young man in this scenario. As strange as it seems for incredibly attractive 20-something mom’s not being eligible to wear the MILF crown, 30-something women who have no children might be called a MILF in public. It’s a fantasy, it doesn’t have to make sense.

8) She doesn’t want a relationship

A MILF isn’t going to fall in love with you. Her only concern is to send you on your merry way as a more mature and sophisticated man. She isn’t going to develop feelings, because that doesn’t fit the fantasy. It’s already still rare to see an older woman depicted making love to a younger man, but even rarer do the two develop a lifelong connection. A MILF seems to not think about herself, and only exist to usher naive young men into maturity. She views the young man as only capable of a night of passion, but she doesn’t seem interested in him calling her the next day. She doesn’t need to feel an emotional connection in this fantasy, she’s content to remain available in case he needs a refresher, and she’s eager to help.

So things change, but often they don’t change that much. Women are liberated and sexually charged more than ever, but they are still expected to fulfill a very specific purpose, and that purpose entirely serves the needs of the man. They aren’t expected to have emotions or needs, or even desire a connection. Even 100 years later, liberated women are still expected to exist for a man. Odd times indeed.